Use Hypnotherapy to Deal with Grief – Hypnotherapist

By S. Chandravathani

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KUALA LUMPUR, Aug 3 (Bernama) — The tragic downing of Malaysia Airlines (MAS) Flight MH17 amidst the bloody, political quagmire in Ukraine has no doubt, left the nation and the world in a state of numbed shock.

Cringing with tears and anger at the nightmare of a political in-fighting in Ukraine, it has left the families of the 298 passengers and crew on board the ill-fated Boeing 777-200 aircraft having to deal with the unexpected grief and loss of loved ones. Often, such deaths would eventually trigger a more serious depression lasting between six and eight weeks after the loss has occurred.

Observers say losing a family member or a close friend is never easy and no matter how prepared one is for a death, they can never be fully prepared for the loss and the grief. Therefore, before it becomes excessive and un-manageable, clinical hypnotherapist and counsellor Dr. Ajit Ludher suggests affected family members use hypnotherapy treatment, which he believes is among the best ways to help treat depression and cope with the death of a loved one.

Dr. Ludher said hypnotherapy or hypnosis, a scientifically-acknowledged psychological and therapeutic discipline, could help change one’s perspective towards life in drastic positive ways. Speaking to Bernama, he said this method had been proven to enable one’s self-consciousness to deal and cope with the stress of losing someone or something.


“It will bring a huge sense of release and relief, and put your thoughts and feelings back into a proper perspective.”


“You will still have your memories but they will be less charged with painful feelings, allowing you to be able to talk openly, should you wish, without the fear of being overcome by gushing emotions,” he said.

Explaining further, Dr. Ludher said the mind was divided into two parts – the conscious mind (logical, reasoning and thinking mind used all the time when we are awake) and the subconscious mind (repository of all experiences and memories).

“In the hypnotic state, the doorway between the conscious and the subconscious mind is opened – memories become easily accessible and you can work on the issues or challenges that have stopped us in the past.

“We are able to access and heal all emotional, mental and physical issues, which enable us to return to the positive state of mind, which will in turn, attract healing and positive possibilities into our lives,” he said. On how a hypnotherapist did the job, Dr. Ludher said they (hypnotherapists) would drop down from the conscious mind, which is only 10 per cent of the mind, and into the subconscious mind.

“We will address the whole person, 100 per cent of the mind rather than just treating the symptoms. Using hypnotherapy, we can go down to the deepest level of these traumatic experiences, memories and stored emotions to release them from the mind and body.”

He said hypnotherapy was not about forgetting but more about healing, accepting the reality of the loss, and most importantly, working through to the pain of grief.

Recognized as traditional and complementary medicine by the Malaysian Health Ministry, he said some 68 per cent of people had removed pain and anger, overcome stress and depression, chemical dependency, removed fears and phobias, increased confidence and broken through barriers by using hypnosis.

Dr. Ludher reminded that hypnotherapy was not about hypnotizing people; instead, it was a side-effect free and effective method to heal, that worked at the subconscious level and focused on dealing with the root of the problem.

Is Hypnotherapy the Answer?

Q: What is clinical hypnotherapy?                                                                                                           How effective is hypnosis

A: Clinical Hypnosis is a therapy used to bring about deep and lasting changes in a person’s wellbeing. Our training allows us to identify and treat many issues using a combination of psychological and hypnotherapeutic techniques. Hypnotherapy is often used to help address attitudes to weight, aid sleeping, relieve anxiety and stop smoking but can also help with confidence issues and enhancing performance in sports for example.

Q: How does hypnotherapy work?

A: Hypnosis is essentially when your mind is in a focused state of attention and concentration. This is recreated through deep relaxation, allowing your subconscious mind to open up to the positive suggestions that have been created for you to overcome your particular concerns.

Q: How does it feel?

A: Clients say “very relaxing” and an “enjoyable experience” – a sense of profound mental rest in a very contented space. “You have full awareness at all times and are conscious of everything going on around you. All in all it is very rewarding”.

Q: Is hypnosis safe?

A: Yes, hypnosis is a naturally occurring state, a drug free method of treatment with no side effects. Because you are fully aware of your surroundings and able to awaken yourself at any time you cannot get left or ‘stuck’ in hypnosis.

Q: Will I lose control or say something I don’t want you hear?

A: No. Being fully aware throughout means you will not be ‘under the hypnotist’s power’ so to speak – this is not ‘stage hypnosis’! Clinical hypnosis simply delivers agreed therapy to you during hypnosis. You are able to move and speak if you wish and are in full control at all times.

Q: Can anyone be hypnotized?

A: Yes, anyone can as long as you are truly committed to achieving the desired result for yourself and for nobody else’s benefit, you simply need to be ‘open minded’. It can be hard for some to ‘switch off’, we can work together to find a hypnotherapy treatment that suits you.

Q: How long does it take to get results?

A: Everyone wants a quick fix.  Hypnotherapy can be very effective.  Deep and lasting changes to the psychological aspects of healing can take time and effort. Hypnosis will only bring positive change if you are truly committed to making that desired change, or to achieving a set goal within yourself and for yourself. 4-6 sessions is enough for many issues but depending on the complexity, some treatment plans may take more.

Build a Body You Can Be Proud Of

Tipping the Scales book-coverI attended the 27th Annual National Guild of Hypnotists Convention. I took a class with Rosemarie Schulman and was inspired by her knowledge of weight loss and weight management using hypnosis.

Rosemarie Schulman RN, BA, CH, CI my Saturday, September 13th guest author at noon on Meet The Author w/ Heddy Keith. We will discuss her book Tipping the Scales.

Rosemarie says, “My issues with food started in high school and developed into an eating disorder in my 20’s. Food was a representation of love and being Italian, food means love. When you’re 24 pounds overweight, your image of yourself suffers. The responses and reactions you make to situations are influenced by your perception of who you are.”

I feel it is extremely important for you to know as much as you can about the defining factors that distinguish overweight and obesity. If you are somebody who needs to lose weight, this program can help you accomplish that. If you are someone who has lost weight and is finding it difficult to keep it off, this program can help you deal with that in a positive way.

If you are some-body who is not dealing with the medical profession on your weight loss journey, you need to be aware of the risks involved in going it alone. As a medical professional, I would advise everybody to seek medical advice before starting this or any other program. My goal with this program is to set you on a path that will bring you to the point where you can safely and permanently make a physical and mental change and finally accomplish your goals.

I was brought up surrounded by medical professionals and have spent my life listening to good sound medical advice. I became a registered nurse and married a man who spent his life dedicated to helping others. Harold Schulman MD and I opened a medical practice dealing with medical issues concerning women. Fen/Phen was introduced to the public at this time and we were overwhelmed with patients asking for prescriptions. We decided to develop the program and monitor the results. It was very important to teach and encourage compliancy. The program was very successful and we talked other professionals into following our protocols.

Rosemarie found that as long as the patient was monitored weekly they did fine but when left all on their own they returned to their old habits. Identifying this, she searched for tools that would help these patients on a long-term basis. Self-hypnosis was the answer and she has used it in her practice ever since. Together she and her husband published a book entitled “Tipping The Scales – It’s Not About Dieting, It’s About Living”. This book only managed to heighten her interest in the topic of weight management.  She worked with a group of bariatric surgeons at the New York MedicalCollege and it was there that Rosemarie discovered her need to deal with the obesity issue in a hands-on constructive way. Rosemarie says, “Surgeons do an amazing job changing the anatomy, but nobody’s changing the mind.”

As destiny would have it, she met Marion Kilkenny whom she discovered was equally as interested in the topic of obesity and gastric surgery. “Together we have worked many hours, met many clients, presented many classes and created the only program of its kind dedicated to the long-term success of the bariatric patient. In fact this program applies to anybody who is in the need of help to lose weight or is dealing with a serious weight loss. This program is for you if you are finding that you are losing your determination to either reach your goal or to maintain the goal you have already achieved.”